The post today is going to be very brief and to the point. So here it goes:
Your assignment in the first part of Igniting Your Passion was to write out any ideas/fantasies that made you feel sensual and passionate. [Remember, these don't have to be sexual fantasies. They are just supposed to be things that sound lovely to you! Some examples could be: taking a lovely bubble bath/ swimming naked in the ocean/ making a chocolate mould of your body, to be painted and sumptuously eaten/ etc...]
So, today, I'm asking you to pick one item off of your list, and do your best to accomplish it! (Even if you'll feel ridiculous doing it.)
For instance, last week, I wrote about how one of the passionate moments I would love to experience is swimming naked in a swimming pool full of chocolate. Mmmhhhhhhh! How Fabulous! :) And, while, I probably can't actually create that specific experience today... can I cover myself in melted chocolate, wrap up in a piece of plastic, and enjoy the experience? ABSOLUTELY!
The key here is that you're not just talking and thinking about getting into your passion.... you're using what you've got and actually doing it.
So may you have fun, feel a little silly, and get out of your box!
And, until next time...
Cindy Neder Highfield
Life Coach, Tantra Counselor
Majestic Living, LLC.
www.majesticlivingnow.com
cindy@majesticlivingnow.com
(646) 202-1782
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To ignite your passion! Spark your ardor! To set your feelings alight! Fan the flames of your desire! ...
There are so many ways to say it... however the key to your passion is to not just talk about it. You have to really mean it, and then ACT!
In step #5, we talked about how to discover what you really (Really) want- and good thing we did- because today we're going to use those results to really drive home today's post!
Ok, so here's the quick and gritty:
If you are crystal clear on what you want, but are lacking passion, motivation, drive, etc... or your intentions are muddled- then it doesn't matter one iota how badly you want something, because you will not get it.
Here's an example: More than anything else in the world, you want Chicken Ala King for dinner. Even thinking about it get's your mouth watering. You've never been so certain of anything before... dinner must be Chicken Ala King. However, there are a few obstacles to overcome on the road to this goal. First of all, you need to to have a general understanding and talent for cooking. You will also need a recipe, and a trip to the grocery store. Lastly, you must actually cook the meal. What if you lacked the passion or motivation to complete just one of the steps? There would be a kink in the Ala King chain... and you would not accomplish your goal. Perhaps you would abandon your dinner vision and just order pizza instead. You would have failed.
I know it may sound harsh, but without guidance or a well-lit fire under your butt- you are essentially setting yourself up for failure.
...And I want you to succeed. BIG TIME! :)
So, if you know what you want, but you're lacking the motivation and drive to see those visions become reality- here's the first step of what I recommend my clients do!
First of all, I highly suggest bringing something to mind that is an easy passion-connection for you. For instance, not everyone knows what it feels like to get passionate over accomplishing a goal, or writing a book... but almost everyone can relate to a memory of a passionate, steamy experience!
So let's use that!
On a sheet of paper, write out 5 fantasies that make you feel sensual and passionate!(Don't worry... they don't have to be sexual fantasies, although it's best if they are sensual).
There are no limits on this exercise. The only rule is: if you start to feel silly... don't back off- use it! :)
Just as an example, I will share one of my own.
I would LOVE to fill a swimming pool with warm melted chocolate, and swim naked in it.
That would be absolutely DeLightful!
What is it for you? Whether it's taking a luxurious bubble bath, or laying on the beach, soaking in sun and feeling fantastic- I want to know about it!
Just keep your imagination open, and give this a try! Go ahead and try this out soon and stay tuned in, because in a day or two I'll be posting the the next step to furthering the process of reawakening your passion.
I'm sending you all love, and
until next time...
Cindy Neder Highfield
Life Coach, Tantra Counselor
Majestic Living, LLC.
www.majesticlivingnow.com
cindy@majesticlivingnow.com
(646) 202-1782
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This is probably my favorite step we will cover in the 9 Step System.
I LOVE it. :)
Because this is, in many ways, the crux of the whole plan. It requires you to become absolutely certain of your priorities and live to that end...(no-shit-no-kidding).
If you don't know what motivates you, how can you know where to devote your time and energies?
And, if you're not moving from your knowing (with courage and clarity) then I do believe you are missing the whole point of life!
Without love and divinely guided passion, life can be just a series of endless days bumping into each other. We become products of life... just waiting for it to end. Some days speed by, others seem to crawl... but all in all the odds are pretty good that life may become this vast expanse of dense depression.
And that turns you from an "Active Participant" of Life... into a "victim".
Let me be clear- what motivates each person is completely unique. There's no "right" way to do it- it all depends on how you feel about your life.
For instance, some people feel full of purpose and motivated when they pray, or meditate. For others it's singing. Or traveling. Or spending time with their families. Or building the success of their business.
What is it for you?
I think Lady Godiva makes a great example of this exact idea. No, truly! She was clear on her priorities. She knew what she wanted and was committed to getting it at any cost. She knew her husband was bullying his subjects into paying ridiculously high taxes, and wanted to take a stand. She was so committed to this end that she was willing to ride her horse, stark naked, through the city so Lord Godiva would finally lower the taxes. W-O-W. :)
If you're not feeling very connected to your inner 'Lady Godiva', or not sure where to start...why not try this exercise!
1. Get a piece of paper and draw a line down the middle of the page- creating 2
columns.
2. At the top of the first column, write the word, "NO", and at the top of the
second column write the word, "YES!".
3. In the "YES!" column, write down everything you really Really want
(regardless of the time it would actually take to get it, or the financial resources it would require.) Go crazy here! Write everything you can think of-
even if it sounds silly or ridiculous. It can be a physical thing that you
want, or a state of mind, or something more emotional, etc...
The only requirement is that everything in this column must make you so excited that your palms sweat and you get butterflies in the pit of your stomach when you think about it! :)
4. If you're not sure of what you want, then begin with the "NO" column.
Sometimes when you have the opportunity to get clear on what you don't want,
you can deduce what you do. Fill out this column until what you do
want starts to become clearer!
That's it for today, my dear friends! So until next time, I send you all a big embrace, and much love!
Cindy Neder Highfield
Life Coach, Tantra Counselor
Majestic Living, LLC.
www.majesticlivingnow.com
cindy@majesticlivingnow.com
(646) 202-1782
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Everyone experiences negative emotions at one time or another. For some, those emotions are temporary and they can clear them almost as quickly as they came up. For others of us, though, negative emotions are a part of our habitual thinking patterns.
When you take the time to release negative emotions, you've done yourself a huge favor. But the work doesn't end there.
If you've ever wondered why you just can't seem to switch out of pessimistic thinking, did you ever think it could be because your thought processes are actually attributed to unhealthy subconscious habit patterns?
That's right. About 80% the choices we make daily aren't based on free choice. They're based on previously programmed experiences.
Think of your brain as a series of computer programs. Most of them are programmed in place during our childhoods- like the ones that tell us what is true about relationships, work ethic, morals and spiritual beliefs. These programs become the basis for our actions. Our actions feed our thoughts. Our thoughts are directly related to our emotions. So on and so forth. Can you see how this all comes together?
If you identify a habit pattern in your life that is no longer serving you, and you're ready to change- there are 2 different roads to take. The first involves much time and painstaking attention. Let's say that a person's habit is always having pessimistic thoughts. Every time someone says something positive, this person always has an equally negative counter thought in their mind. They never allow themselves to dream or hope too big. And, they don't call themselves pessimists- they are realists.
If this person was ready to change, and wanted to take the first road, here is what I would recommend they do: every time a negative thought entered their mind- they'd think the exact opposite of it. They would write out their want/wish list and practice small random acts of kindness (like putting money in a parking meter that isn't theirs, or buying the person behind them at the deli a cup of coffee). It might be weeks, or even months, of this constant attention until they'd begin to notice a long-lasting change in their thoughts.
If this same person wanted to accomplish that same outcome in half the time, I would recommend they try subconscious meditations (just like the ones I use with many of my clients). They are relatively simple, easy to remember, and very effective.
Whichever road you choose to take- just remember that no matter what your habit is or how long you've had it... you can always change it. It's never too late. With intention, and just a little time and persistence you can begin feeling like a whole new person-- right away! :)
As you read the title, were you facetiously thinking, "Just suddenly release all of my negative emotions? Why didn't I think of that!?" ;)
But it does sound nice in theory, doesn't it? And here's the kicker.
It Is Possible.
So often, when it comes to unpleasant emotions and memories, the instinct is to bury them- to make tracks and put so much space between us and them that we can just forget about them! However, we all know that this method doesn't really work- right?
Even if we do successfully forget about whatever-it-is for a brief period, it doesn't take long until they've festered and built up strength and come back to kick our asses.
This is because the key isn't to deny these feelings and emotions. It's to embrace them. I know this might seem counter intuitive -AND- if you want to release and heal these negative emotions and memories so much faster and experience long term results then this is the route you want to take.
Own your negative emotions. Embrace them. Make love to them. Surrender to them. And then you will be free to let them go. Have you ever heard the phrase, "The only way out is through,"? Let this become your new mantra for releasing and healing negative emotions.
By owning your negative emotions and painful memories- you are Accepting Personal Responsibility for them. Is this starting to sound familiar? Are you able to see how the steps are weaving together now?
Bring a negative emotion to mind (one that is fresh for you), and own the way you feel. For instance, if you feel sad then say out loud,
"I feel sad."
If you are depressed then say it out loud,
"I feel depressed."
And then notice the relief you feel wash over you as you surrender to that emotion, instead of fighting to deny it. Now you are free to let it go, and choose to feel a different way, instead.
This is certainly not the only step in completely healing and releasing negative emotions, but it is a Huge first step that will make an immediate difference in how you feel.
A first step you can feel immensely proud of!
That's it for today, so until next time...
I'm sending you love and respect.
Cindy
Cindy Neder Highfield
Life Coach, Tantra Counselor
Majestic Living, LLC.
www.majesticlivingnow.com
cindy@majesticlivingnow.com
(646) 202-1782
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Spring is in the air!
As we approach the Vernal Equinox, we can feel our bodies’ subtle (or not so subtle) cries for balance. The time has come to shed winter layers and come out of the darkness into the light! We feel an energy building inside us to connect with that sensation of potential energy surrounding us: the snow melting, the days getting longer and the first signs of new green peeking up at us from the earth. Buds on trees are preparing to burst into new life and flowers are pushing themselves up through the soil. In no time we will be basking in the warmth of the sun again!
What does your body need at this exciting time of transition?
Are you anxious to get moving and feel your muscles toning and slimming again?
Have you noticed any particular cravings at this time of year?
Have you ever considered a Spring cleaning for your body to mirror the one you will probably do for your home or closet?
Spring is a wonderful time to cleanse away toxins and impurities that have been
taking up valuable real estate in your body throughout the winter months. There are wonderful health benefits to cleansing including relieving stress on many of your vital organs, increased energy, clearing out toxins that can lead to discomfort and disease in the body, and more time to accomplish your goals. A cleanse can range from a gentle stepping back from your normal diet to remove
chemicals and processed foods, to a full on fruit and vegetable juice only diet.
As a part of your cleanse you may choose to include a trip to the bath house for sauna or massage, a colonic, or a specific yoga regimen. Cleanses can be done solo or in a group for support and can be altered to suit your personal schedule or dietary needs. A cleanse doesn't have to be something that you suffer through either! It can be fun and full of activities and education that set you on a path for maximum overall health leading into the warm weather seasons.
What are you letting go of at this time of year?
During any transition, it is a valuable process to check in with the needs of the physical self and find systems of support to help us maximize our energy and make the most of every day. If you are considering a Spring cleanse for the first time, make sure to do so with the support of a health professional or nutritionist who can guide you in making the strongest choices for your body.
For information about a Guided Spring Detox & Cleanse Program, please visit Deborah’s Holistic Nutrition website.
So! You've been living in your YES for 5 days now, and I'm so excited for you. :)
Right around this point in your journey, many people experience a similar bump in the road. I'd like to share a quick tip to help you smoothly transition over this bump (if it is/or becomes true for you at any future point). And that is: What do you do when you and your partner's Yes' are not in alignment? Take the proper time to prioritize.
You'd be surprised how often I hear the question: "But what do I do when it's not in my partner's Yes to help take care of the kids/house work/etc...? What do we do then?"
My answer? Prioritize!
When you get clear on what your priorities are, suddenly the big Yes' fall into place.
If you feel like you and your partner are on separate pages about a particular issue, I recommend sitting down together and talking about what's really important to you as individuals, and as a couple. Chances are, you'll find some common ground together.
Before you know it, you'll realize that even though it's not in your Yes to do chores everyday when you get home-- it is in your YES to assist your partner in feeling happy, supported and loved. Or, the Beloved who loves going out every night with their friends instead of helping out with the kids may realize that in the bigger picture, having a family and being spending quality parenting time with their kids is more in their Yes than going out each night.
note: (Please don't misunderstand me. I am definitely using rather extreme examples here to make a point. My intention is not to judge or condone any behavior, but merely offer another perspective and some helpful hints. I'm not advocating that you shouldn't go out with your friends again, or that you need to turn yourself into a daily cleaning machine. Because I want you to be exactly who you are! And, on the flip side, hanging out with friends when your partner is willing to put the kid's to bed can be a great way to get some much needed re-juicing time and in my opinion, is an important priority, too! A great guide in every situation is balance. :) )
And there you have it! May you and your partner always enjoy being in your YES- just remember the true keys are prioritizing and staying balanced.
I'm sending you love and respect.
And, until next time... keep your eyes on the Big Picture!
Cindy
Cindy Neder Highfield
Life Coach, Tantra Counselor
Majestic Living, LLC.
www.majesticlivingnow.com
cindy@majesticlivingnow.com
(646) 202-1782
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This is the one step I really see change people's attitudes and lives right there in our session. I love working with someone and seeing their "light bulbs" go off. :)
... And, this step definitely has, what I call, the light bulb effect! ...
Ok, so let's get to the down and dirty because this step is a quick one.
Let's face it: when we were kids, and we asked our parents for something... there were 3 possible answers:
Yes. No. or Maybe.
And I knew that if I heard "maybe"... in most cases I could ware my parents down to a "yes" by the end of the week.
However, we are no longer children, and we don't have to seek anyone else's permission these days. Unfortunately... many people still do tell themselves "maybe" quite a lot.
Every time you tell yourself maybe- you are settling. When you are living in maybe- you are living in complacency.
So often we wonder why we feel passionless, bored and worn down... but all the choices we are making on a daily basis are "settling" choices- instead of ones that support us in feeling passionate and delicious!
Is this starting to make sense? Can you see where in your life you've been settling instead of taking a stand for yourself?... And how you feel each time you settle?
If you're ready to stop settling- here's what I propose!
From now on the only answers to any given question are:
Yes, or No.
There is no Maybe. Get rid of it- don't let it exist anymore.
This means that only a 100% Yes is a Yes. Anything less is a No.
For example, a 68% Yes = No. ... A 99.9% Yes = No.
I know this may sound a little extreme, but until this practice becomes 2nd nature to you, and it is an easy, healthy part of your life- I definitely recommend taking a no-excuses/no-shit-no-kidding approach.
And, through doing this exercise, I am positive you are going to love your results and the new way you start to feel immediately.
I am confident that you're going to love living in your Yes! so much that you'll never revert back to your old ways of "settling" again.
I send you all love and respect, and
Until next time...
Cindy
Cindy Neder Highfield
Life Coach, Tantra Counselor
Majestic Living, LLC.
www.majesticlivingnow.com
cindy@majesticlivingnow.com
(646) 202-1782
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For the readers out there who are wondering: what on Earth are The 9 Steps to Re-Claiming Your Inner Mojo(TM)? First of all I say, "Welcome!"
I am so glad you are here. :)
The 9 Steps to Re-Claiming Your Inner Mojo(TM) are the actual guidelines I've created over the last 2 years- based on the work I do with my own clients. These are the steps I guide them through in our coaching programs.
The 9 Steps have been designed to support you in loving yourself up, and making positive transformational life changes- when you're ready for them. It's effective, quick, easy, fun- and best of all, at the end of the process- most people feel so good you need to scrape them off the ceiling!
Before I sink my teeth into the first step of Re-Claiming Your Inner Mojo, I'd like to put a suggestion out to you. Now, obviously, you have not hired me as your coach, and these 9 Steps are my personal gift to you. However, you have the potential to really take them and make a significant difference in your life right now. With that in mind- just do me a favor and try out every exercise, tip, trick, and step we cover. Seriously- you're not paying for this content... so you have nothing to lose. But just think if it really works out as well as I know it can! How cool would that be?
Alright, so here we go!
Inner Mojo Step #1:
ACCEPT PERSONAL RESPONSIBILITY.
Now, I know that this first step may sound simplistic and self-explanatory, but before you poo-poo it just think about it. How many people- yourself included- do you know who REALLY accept full responsibility for themselves?
I'm not just talking about the big ones... like showing up to work everyday, being a good parent, or making your bills on time every month (which are SO important). I'm talking about the seemingly little things, too!
For instance: have you ever been late for a date or appointment, and made excuses for yourself? ...(even if they were really Really good ones)? Or, have you ever found yourself in the heat of an argument and saying, "You make me SO _(mad/sad/angry/frustrated/etc...)_!" or "I hate it when you always ____(fill in the blank)___!" Those two statements are examples of not accepting Emotional Responsibility for yourself.
Let's take a closer look at the first statement:
"You make me SO..."
In this example, the speaker is not owning their own emotions... instead they're blaming someone else for how they feel. When you think about it- doesn't that just sound silly? I mean- who really has the power to control your emotions? YOU. That's right... you are in control of the experience you're having right now, and you are the only one who can change it. In fact- if you don't like how you're feeling at any given moment, or the results you're getting... it is your responsibility to change it (because no one else will).
It sounds great, right? Change the way you feel and you'll change the results you're getting. For those of you out there who are wondering 'how do I go about doing that'?- I've got a couple great tips to start you on the journey of accepting personal responsibility that you can put into practice today.
1. Stop blaming and making excuses. No exceptions. (I know it may sound a little harsh, however my intention is to make a strong point.) When you're late for a date or an appointment- even by a minute or 2... what you're silently saying to the person you're meeting is that your time is more important than theirs. So, instead of making an excuse and validating that your reason for being late is more important than your commitment to them- just simply acknowledge your lateness, and apologize. It's as simple as that. Let them know that you care, and you're sorry to have wasted their time. When people know you genuinely care about them- you'll go a lot farther with them, and they'll be more inclined to trust you sooner.
2. Take responsibility for your emotions. The next time you feel like someone has caused you anger, pain, frustration, embarrassment, etc... try changing how you communicate your feelings. Let's say, for example, that your partner leaves their dirty socks on the kitchen table after you've just cleaned it, and you're mad because they just saw you clean the table! Instead of blaming, take this marvelous sentence and fill in the blanks.
"Hunny, when you put your dirty socks on the table, I feel mad."
See how that works? All of a sudden you're making a statement about what you're partner did... and letting them know how you feel because of their behavior. You're not blaming... you're not arguing.... and now the door is open for you to make a reasonable request!
3. At the end of each day, right before you go to bed, make a quick mental note of your whole day... and begin to take 100% responsibility for all of your emotions that day. For instance, say to yourself, "At breakfast today I chose to feel happy. On my way to work I chose to feel stressed out and rushed. At work I chose to feel distracted. At lunch I chose to feel giddy and silly. Etc..."
Cover your whole day that way... and leave nothing out!
And, last but not least:
4. Only say you're sorry when you're willing to not repeat the behavior you're apologizing for. I know this one may sound a little strident, however I find it is a good general guide. If you think about it- if you're doing something that you genuinely feel warrants an apology- you've hurt someone deeply. And so you apologize... then you repeat the behavior again and again and again--then in some ways the apology becomes the excuse that makes it OK for us to hurt the ones we care about.
Just by implementing these 4 simple tips into your daily life, I am confident that you will begin to, emotionally, feel so much clearer. What a relief to have less tension with your partner. And, how wonderful it feels to build rapport quickly with colleagues and friends!
I am so excited for you to let go of life skills and habits that aren't working for you- and embrace the ones that do. Perhaps for you that means beginning with these 4 tips!
Stay tuned in for step #2 of 9 this Tuesday! I look forward to seeing you then. :)
I'm sending you love and respect, and
Until next time...
Cindy
Cindy Neder Highfield
Life Coach, Tantra Counselor
Majestic Living, LLC.
www.majesticlivingnow.com
cindy@majesticlivingnow.com
(646) 202-1782
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If you've been feeling run down lately- maybe you're having a hard time finding the motivation to get through the day... not to mention pursuing your own dreams and goals- and you're definitely NOT living in your creativity and pleasure... then you're ready to Re-Claim Your Inner Mojo!
I say "RE-Claim" because I believe that we are each born with the innate knowledge and wisdom to absolutely live full and delicious lives. However, over time these natural instincts are trained, taught, and programmed out of us through society, friends, family, or perhaps our own mis-understandings of the world.
These "programs" might be telling us "what it means to be good men/women", or "to never be satisfied with what we have", or that "our sexuality is private and taboo- totally separate from the rest of our lives" [and something that brings a lot of shameful and guilt-ridden baggage with it, too]!
The great news is that when you're ready to re-claim your own inner truths- by using The 9 Steps you can remember them easily, and begin having a different life experience, right now.
I've been teaching these 9 Steps to clients for the past 2 years, however, a couple months ago I knew it was finally time to write down clear-cut, tangible content to share with you!
Today I'm going to tell you what the 9 Steps are, and then in the next couple days I will post again- going more in depth on the first step. Each week I will cover a new step, as well as share a couple exercises, tricks, and tips with you, too.
Ok, seat-belts fastened? 'Cause here we go!
The 9 Steps to Re-Claiming Your Inner Mojo (TM):
1. Accept Personal Responsibility
- 2. Be in your YES!
- 3. Release Negative Emotions
- 4. Re-Write Unhealthy Habit Patterns
- 5. Discover What You really(Really) Want
- 6. Ignite Your Passion
- 7. Cultivate the Keys of Tantra for a Sexier You
- 8. Program Your Future
- 9. Create Your Personal Declaration
And that's it! Pretty simple, right? Now we can get down to the nitty-gritty, and discover what all that actually means. :)
The 9 Steps to Re-Claiming Your Inner Mojo (TM) is a system I've created expressly for my coaching clients to get them back into living their lives with passion, joy and pleasure (in a very short period of time). I'm very excited to be sharing quite a few of my secrets with you over the next 9 weeks!
Until then,
I'm sending you Love and Respect.
Cindy
Cindy Neder Highfield
Life Coach, Tantra Counselor
Majestic Living, LLC
www.majesticlivingnow.com
cindy@majesticlivingnow.com
(646) 202-1782
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When you're ready to invite a Life Coach into your life- the task of finding the right one can seem quite daunting. How do you guarantee it's a coach you can trust? What results can you expect? What exactly is the role of a life coach? I'm going to share with you some of my personal insider information about finding a great Life Coach.
First of all, when there are thousands of coaches to choose from, it's easy to see how people become overwhelmed when choosing between them. And, of course, the downside of getting overwhelmed is that you might end up procrastinating and putting the choice off- which means that not only do you suffer by not having the right coach in your life, but your potential coach is also missing out on the incredible experience of having you for a client. It's Lose/Lose all the way around.
Because you have so many options when choosing between Life Coaches, I always recommend getting as clear as you can about certain qualities that are important to you. If you're not quite sure what you want in a coach, then see if you can narrow down what you Don't want. For instance, some coaches are certified, while others aren't but they have a lot of hands-on experience. Some work only with women or only with men, some coaches are more traditional in their approach, while others may be more spiritual. For instance, because of my background in Eastern Philosophy and Tantra, people often contact me when they are seeking creative and non-religious based spiritual support. They are not feeling like they're totally experiencing the joy and pleasure in their lives, and by visiting my website, they know that in coming to me, we will heal and uproot the past that is no longer working for them, so that they can live in the present and then move forward so much more easily and quickly. As a general rule of thumb, Life Coaches will work with you on improving your life, as a whole, moving forward.
Once you've decided what traits are important in your ideal coach, you've searched around online or by word of mouth, and you think you've found a coach looks like a good match.
So, what comes next?
Well, I know it may sound simplistic, but read their website. Read all of it. You'll learn a lot about that coach and how they work by reading their already posted content. I know it may be tempting to call up and talk to the coach in person, but do yourself a favor and read the website from top to bottom. The 3 most valuable segments of a coaches website that you can read (in my opinion) are: 1. the About Them page/ 2. the Client Testimonials/ and 3. the FAQ's.
When reading the testimonials, really take the time to notice what is being said by the previous clients. It might sound really great if a coach is "...Really nice- a great person! They felt just like a best friend. I loved spending time with them." ...but if that's the case- be wary! Notice how the testimonial said nothing about the Results they got from working with that particular coach. You already have friends in your life, and you're not paying your coach to be your friend. Chances are if the coach is really good you will come to feel close to them naturally- however it will be a professional relationship built on mutual trust and respect- and Results!
Some of the most important facts that the FAQ should be able to tell you (and if it doesn't I highly recommend asking these questions anyway) are: What is that particular coach's working style? Who do they work best with? And, what would be expected of you, as their client?
If you're still interested in the coach- sign up for a "Getting Acquainted session" if they offer it (or their equivalent).
I know that price might be a big consideration for you. And, to be honest, you may spend anywhere from $100/month up to thousands a month depending on the coach and type of session package you choose, however truth be told that if you find the perfect coach for you- they will be worth Every Penny. Truly- I have turned my life around through working with some coaches of my own- and I know some of the incredible results that my clients have gotten just by working with me. If money is a concern for you, though, I think you'll be surprised to learn that often times coaches offer different packages to meet every budget. For instance, I offer 3 different packages to my clients- so that they can be empowered to make the right choice for them.
At the end of the day, the most important things to remember are that the very best coach will help grow the light inside yourself to shine even brighter. They are the perfect compliment to who you are: the gravy to your potatoes... the syrup to your pancakes. You're not broken- you certainly don't need to be fixed by a Life Coach. And, coaches certainly aren't miracle-makers, either. However, when you find the right Life Coach, and you put your ALL into working with them... seemingly a little magic can happen. Above all else, remember that you only get out what you put in. So, show up and "play the coaching game at 100%", trust the process, enjoy the ride- and reap the incredibly abundant benefits!
Happy coaching to you all, and until next time...
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Here's an awesome exercise to help you ring in the New Year!
You can give this one a try by yourself, with a partner, or with a group of your friends.
Get 2 pieces of paper. On the first sheet write out everything you want to let go of from last year (2009). Any emotions, thoughts, grudges you may be still holding on to, and are not supporting you in being your absolute healthiest and happiest in this present moment. Let it all go- on that piece of paper. When you're ready (and on a fire-safe surface) burn the paper. As it burns, feel all of those old thoughts and feelings leave your body, too.
Now take that 2nd sheet of paper, and on it write everything in 2010 that you want to create and accomplish. Any goals you have in mind, places you want to travel to, relationships you'd like to create, etc... and keep that piece of paper in a very special place. It should be somewhere you will see it and remember it often.
At the end of 2010, I bet you'll be surprised how many items on your list have come to fruition!
Happy New Year to you all, and may this year be the start (or continuation) of something fantastic!
Until next time,
Cindy